So the topic of today kids, is about Astrology and stuff. The reason why I bring this up is because I was just g-chatting with a pal about his sign…he’s a Aquarius. Aquarius men are a mess… hot flaming mess. He realizes it, so I’m sure when he reads this blog he will laugh. As I shared with him, I used to be into astrology HEAVY when I was a child. Always reading the back of the magazines for the Monthly Horoscope. Couldn’t wait til Cosmo released their astrology issue every year around summer time… to give you insight into the following year. It also “guided” you on who you should date and befriend, etc.  Did I swear by it? Not at all. But it was all for entertainment.

As I got older, I stepped away from it. Mainly because I got a little bit closer to the man above… and astrology is something frowned on. It’s like having Satan as your counselor… or so they say. Now, I’m not sure I would take it THAT far… but I do realize the point. The only person we should be seeking for guidance in life… and the only person that knows our future… should be God.. OK, Ok.. I can relate to that.

I had a friend recently go to a psychic… well, actually the woman was in another country, so the consultation was over the phone.  And I kinda didnt want my girl to go thru with it… because I know she is in an unstable part of her life and I didn’t want her to DEPEND on someone else predicting her fate. But anyways, she spoke to the psychic (and of course told me afterwards).  And from what I hear, the psychic was pretty accurate on a lot of things in her past… and perhaps in her future. And the lady (we will just call her Ms. Cleo) was also a bit specific on hair colors of people, time frames, seasons, etc. Kind of impressive.

But I posed this question to my friend (and I will pose it to you now),  what do you do next? If someone was to tell you how your life is gonna go down in the upcoming days, months, years… what do u do??  Do you just sit back and let the good and bad happen?? Do you try to prevent the negative stuff from happening? And if she’s a psychic, does she know that you were gonna try to prevent stuff from happening??

See… the more i question… the more i question. And it’s all fuzzy to me. As much as I would like to know about my life in the next 6 months, I’m not sure I could handle that responsibility. I think I’m just gonna have faith that God has things lined up for me… that may be great.. or not so great… but they will happen for a reason…. right?

This entry is titled…. Desperate Housewives. I just threw that out there. I might change it before I am done.. we shall see.  Anyways, so I was on facebook the other day.. doing what I do best which is absolutely nothing, and I noticed this one guy talking about how he can’t find a woman nowadays that cooks, cleans, yada, yada. And i got super duper frustrated just reading that status. Like I wanted to comment on it, but dude clearly doesnt know me like that… and my comment wasn’t gonna be the nicest.

As an independent woman (like Beyonce and ‘em) who had to work most of her life, I realize that although I HATE working, I’m gonna be doing this shit for a while. And I’m gonna do it well… and I’m gonna make lots and lots of money. Hopefully the MBA on my resume will help me do that. But that’s neither here nor there. The point is, I’m gonna be working in my household.. marriage.  And I have a sneaky suspicion that I might make either equivalent or more than my spouse. Not my desire by any means, but i’m a freakin hustler so it’s plausible. And if i am a working woman… and helping pay the bills and ish, do i have to still take on housewife duties???

Definition of Housewife Duties: cook, clean and shit…

I threw this question on Twitter the other day (DigitalGurl) and had a bit of a debate with one lame gentleman. I basically was like Why do I have to cook the bacon every night? Especially if I am helping bring it home. (I LOOOOVE bacon by the way!). He disagreed. Even if the woman was doing her darnest to make sure they lived the glamourous life, he still believed in those “traditional” roles of the man doing nothing and the woman doing housewife duties (refer to definition above).

Now… honestly I’m tired typing already and I haven’t even got to the meat of this topic. But shiiiiit, I’m so tired – I had a long night last night.. being bad. But the POINT is, in my ideal household there will be no such thing as “roles”… it’s all about helping out when needed. If I need to cook and clean, of course I am gonna do it. But if I need my negro of a husband to cook and clean, he better do it to! ESPECIALLY if we both are putting 50/50 towards our lifestyle. And I guess I should stop focusing on cooking/cleaning because there are other things that would need to be compromised as well in the relationship - like me personally, I am not above taking out garbage or shoveling if i had to. Not a big deal. I wouldnt DEPEND on my spouse to do those things.

Ok. I might come back and continue this topic… because I still haven’t touched on “outsourcing”… no one’s gonna read this ish anyways, so who cares if its half-finished

Sigh. I’m keeping this blog titled Desperate Housewives cuz I can’t think of anything else.

But then I looked at my friends, colleagues, twitter-stalkers, etc., and realized we are all pretty much in the same boat. I mean, only a handful of my friends actually have done it the “dream” way. But are some of them really happy?? eh… not so sure. But anyways thats another subject…

The point is this, we seemingly go through life with these self-imposed plans of how life should work, especially in this realm, and essentially just end up setting ourselves up for failure. I mean, I can say the same shit about my career. I coulda sworn once I graduated with my MBA life would be oh so grand. hahahahaha. Yea, right. Sallie Mae is all up in my grill… I hate her.

So now, I am trying to take a different take on the situation. It’s super hard though, because for most of my life I had this “dream”. Now, I am just trying to make sure I do it the “right” way… meaning, all these things I desire will come when they should… not by force. As much as I would love to stalk Boris Kudjoe and his sperm, that’s prolly not the best route and our kids will only grow up beautiful, tall and… sigh.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you have an ideal time frame for marriage and shit? How’s that working out for you?….

So this dude hits up my girl out the blue… and when I say out the blue, I mean out the clear blue world wide web. She didn’t know him, he didn’t know her… but a few mutual friends and a mutual education.  Dude comes strong… and when I say strong, I mean befriended her on facebook, talked mad game, blew up her phone, etc. etc. Now, being the intelligent chica that she is… she has suspicions (and did minor background checks), but hell.. it’s winter time, and we females get a little bored around this time. So she indulged in what homie was spittin’. Plus he lived out of state, so it wasn’t like he would come knockin on her door at 2am. So for the past couple of weeks, they had great convo, things are going smooth, seemed like a good deal. Well….Lo and behold, dude was tryna meet her. Said he was gonna come to her city and hang with her during the weekend. He was a “baller” apparently, so money wasn’t an issue. She lives in a popular locale, so she’s like what the hell.. he can come in-town.. and I will oblige him with a date or two while he was in city. He made plans and shit.. sent her a lil itinerary and all that jazz. She was like “ok, cool. I’m gonna let my guard down and see what happens”. I mean, that’s what people on Match.com do, right?

Well.

How about the weekend the dude was supposed to come in town, he goes ghost! And when I say ghost, I mean no calls, no IMs, no text, no nothing. Strange, especially after dude has been blowing her up nonstop. She sent a text, no reply. Hmm…

Like I said before, I already know the answer to this mess. But please, share your thoughts… What’s dudes issue?

And no he’s not dead, comatose or whatever… cuz this tool is on facebook as we speak (type… u know what i mean).

I used to blog. I stopped because frankly I was lazy. But hey as we approach a new decade, I figured I might as well turn over a new leaf… especially with all the fuckery going on in the world. Yea, I said fuckery…That’s the best way to describe it. If you don’t like a teaspoon of profanity thrown into a sentence, then you prolly wanna hit the back button on your browser.

Anyways, I’ll use this blog to vent, get silly, comment on other people’s business, etc. It’s for fun… but I promise to get serious sometimes. Really, I’m just tired of restricting my thoughts to 140 characters on twitter…

So indulge. Let loose. Read. Laugh. Cry. Stalk me. Whatever your heart desires.